“Brevity is the soul of a wit” - Shakespeare
This one of my favorite proverbs. The way I govern my life stems from this thinking. I have many short, quick phrases that I’ve gather all throughout my life from various people that have helped me overcome obstacles or helped me in any way possible. It’s a little cliched to live my life with quotes from people I don't know or just quotes in general. However, “cliches are only cliches because they're true” and quotes are short and easy to remember in a time when you need tried and true advice.
1. “Play with ink and get stained; Play with light and become enlightened”
My mother would always tell me this when I was younger. This quote concerns friends and how friends much influence your decisions and your overall personality. Friends are the people you spend the most time with and they are there when you’re down.They’re there for you in the happy moments of your life and they’re there for you in the sad moments. Since you’re always around them, the impact they make on you is substantial.
For example, when course selection for next year was occurring, I had trouble deciding on an AP level of a class or just a regular level class. My friends helped by weighing the decisions and consequences, good and bad, of each of the choices. But even after that, I had no idea whatsoever, as to what class was the best for me. I decided to let democracy fix my problem. Almost unanimously, all my friends told me to chose the AP route - they wanted me to challenge myself and they knew I could handle it. Now that I look back, I am grateful that my friends made me choose something that was right for me. If I had the different friends or the wrong kind of friends, I wouldn’t have been as happy with their choice of the other route.
2. “Be who you are and don’t let anyone or anything define you”
This one is an obvious one, but sometimes it is easy to forget when you’re caught up in the moment. It is important to not let stereotypes, numbers, grades, etc. define you. I feel that at this age, my peers are allowing their grades to define who they are and how “smart” they are, since that is, in a sense, how colleges pick out students to accept and students to deny from the school.
The other day, a lowerclassmen asked what grade I had received in my previous class and upon hearing my grades, she gasped and replied, “ Wow you’re smart.” At that moment, I was happy, because who wouldn’t be? Who doesn’t like receiving compliments?
Upon further reflection, however, I realized that I just let a letter define me. A LETTER. Just a letter! How crazy! That letter does not make me “smart”. It just shows that I did my work and memorized concepts that I happened to regurgitate back to the teacher in the correct way on an examination. It doesn’t show me. It doesn’t show what type of person I am, what my personality is like, or even anything at all about me.
Constantly, I am reminded of what colleges think of me every time I check my schoolloop. All these letters - they’re used to define me. But every once in a while I stop and think. It doesn’t matter who the colleges think I am - the only thing that matters is who I actually am on the inside. Because in real life, your whole self - your physical appearance, your attitude, your personality, the way you hold yourself, the real things are the only things that matter. Not some arbitrary intangible grade.
